One of Nelson Mandela’s daughters has told of how the frail 94-year-old former president now rarely even speaks, after a series of illnesses and deteriorating health.
Makaziwe Mandela, the eldest surviving child of the South African icon, has spoken of the often silent connection she shares with her father, and of her sadness at being used by the ANC to score political points.
Mandela doesn’t talk much anymore, according to Makaziwe. But the former leader, who once wrote of his regret at being unable to devote himself to his family during the fight against apartheid and afterward, reaches out in another way.
“It’s the hand that he stretches out. It is the touching of the hand that speaks volumes for me. And for me, if you ask me what I would treasure, it is this moment that I treasure with my father,” said Makaziwe, the oldest of Mandela’s three surviving children, all daughters. “It means, `My child, I’m here.’ It means to me that, `I’m here. I love you. I care.”’
Unfortunate
“My Dad has not been in good, perfect health over the past month. And he has good days and he has bad days,” his daughter said.
One of those bad days was April 29, when state television broadcast footage of a visit by President Jacob Zuma and other leaders of the ruling African National Congress to Mandela, who had previously helmed the ANC, at his Johannesburg home. Zuma said Mandela was in good shape, but the footage – the first public images of Mandela in nearly a year – showed him silent and unresponsive, even when Zuma tried to hold his hand.
Makaziwe said her family is grateful that the “movement,” as she refers to the ANC leadership, still visits her father. The broadcasting of the video, however, was unfortunate, she said. Critics allege the ANC was trying to score political points by its association with Mandela. The party fiercely denies it.
“In previous visits, there was no need to take a picture. What happened this time, I don’t know,” said Makaziwe, a 59-year-old founder of a South African wine-making company that highlights two centuries of the family’s distinguished lineage in its branding. She is one of four children from her father’s first marriage to Evelyn Mase, which ended in divorce. The other three died – one in infancy, one in a car crash and one from an AIDS-related illness.
Dignity
Makaziwe said the “dignity and privacy” of her father, also a father to the nation, is sometimes under threat, complaining that 20 journalists one day in May converged on her father’s home, where he receives medical treatment, after an ambulance left to fetch medicine from a hospital.
“This is really utter madness,” she said. “This thing that everybody has got to be the first one to hear when Nelson Mandela goes, it’s not right. All of you will have your opportunity. You will get the news from the presidency at the right time.”
During Mandela’s recent hospitalization for pneumonia, which ended April 6, Zuma’s office issued brief, regular updates on his health. On some past occasions, conflicting reports from the government contributed to mistrust between authorities and the media.
Fascination with Mandela stems from the sense that he is on a par with others whose human shortcomings were overshadowed by their contributions to humanity, including Indian independence hero Mohandas Gandhi and American civil rights leader Martin Luther King.
Morality
South Africa has held peaceful elections and is a major economic force in Africa, but struggles with high unemployment, crime and corruption. Nelson Mandela embodies a morality and unity of purpose that makes South Africans nostalgic for an earlier era of promise.
“He has something that people gravitate to, that they can hold to, that gives them hope,” said Makaziwe Mandela, comparing him to Mother Teresa. “That’s what Nelson Mandela has done, is to give people a better hope that, `I can be somebody. Life today can be better than yesterday.”’
Makaziwe’s home is in a comfortable suburb of Johannesburg that, as she pointed out, was barred to blacks in the apartheid era. Sculptures – a gift from Gabon, presents brought by a son returning from Sweden – lined a mantelpiece in the carpeted living room where she sat for the interview. Her daughter, Tukwini, worked in a nearby room on the “House of Mandela” wine business, which launched this year in the United States.
The Mandela name has lost some shine because of a legal dispute over control of two companies that pits Makaziwe and Zenani Dlamini, a daughter from Mandela’s second marriage to Winnie Mandela, against old associates of the Nobel Peace prize laureate, who has withdrawn from public life. The firms, directed by associates who say they were appointed at Mandela’s request, hold funds from the sale of handprint artwork by Mandela that is earmarked for eventual distribution to his family.
Justice
In the interview, Makaziwe Mandela would not discuss the court case.
She talked about the strain and stress of losing her siblings and having a charismatic father whose devotion to justice and equality came at the expense of his children.
“I’m sure now, in his twilight years, that he looks back and says, `You know, I could have done that differently,”’ Makaziwe said. “He has regrets in life, mostly about his family. He was not there as a father. He tried the best way that he could when he came out of jail. But you understand that my father came out of jail and was swallowed up even before he became president. He never really had the time to truly be a father.”
In his autobiography “Long Walk to Freedom,” Nelson Mandela wrote wistfully of his inability to fulfil his role as a husband to Winnie Mandela during his incarceration, which ended in 1990. The couple divorced in 1996. He is now married to Graca Machel, the former first lady of Mozambique.
Regret
“When your life is the struggle, as mine was, there is little room left for family. That has always been my greatest regret, and the most painful aspect of the choice I made,” Mandela wrote.
Makaziwe Mandela said she relates to actress Jane Fonda, who wrote in a memoir about her troubled relationship with her father, actor Henry Fonda. “On Golden Pond,” the 1981 movie that starred both Fondas, also offered a bitter sweet lesson in how a child can reach out to an elderly parent, even one who didn’t, or couldn’t, do enough.
“It is me who has to make an effort, to bridge the gap,” Makaziwe said. “To be there.”
Mandela has long been revered for his sacrifice during 27 years as a prisoner of apartheid and his peacemaking role in South Africa’s shift to a democracy inclusive of all races.
